Battling the “shoulds” that arise in retirement

Battling the “shoulds” that arise in retirement

The “shoulds” tried to get the best of me this past weekend – the ones that try to decree what I should be doing with my time now that I’m retired. My usual fall and early-winter Sunday routine is to get the day’s newspapers, go for a walk by myself or a hike with my...
When someone else judges our retirement

When someone else judges our retirement

“Retirement means the lack of engagement; it is total disengagement,” the 40-something woman declared on the phone. As if that wasn’t off-putting enough, she continued, “People in your world should realize that once you retire, you’re no longer vital.” What? I would...
I lost my work friends when I retired

I lost my work friends when I retired

“Once you’ve been retired a couple of years, you realize you’ve lost your ‘work family,’” says a retired buyer for a large medical institution in Rochester, Minnesota. “I think we all intend to keep in touch after retirement, but truth be told, most don’t. Life...